Let’s not mince words. Everyone gets older. It’s inevitable.
Aging, on the other hand, is optional.
And it’s somewhat of an art, as mastered by beauties like Meryl Streep, Jane Fonda and Tina Turner. What do they have in common? The inherent ability to neglect the notion that time decreases a woman’s value. Not to mention the fact that they’re glowing, fit and apparently in their prime.
Yes, prime. Our brains are hard wired to improve as we age and our experience grows. Think of aging as a way to increase your value, wisdom, well-being, spirit and soul. In which case, your golden years may very well be your golden ticket to living a life of intention.
All of that being said, here’s what we know for sure about living an ageless life…
1. Be present where you are, right now. Wherever it is, that’s your happy place. Who really wants to be twenty again, anyway? How quickly we forget the infinite stresses of our youth.
2. Take beauty risks and do what ‘they’ say you should not (who are ‘they’, anyway?). Long hair. Leather pants. Glitter nails. Yes, yes and yes. Break the rules. Go against the drift. Own it.
3. Put your best face forward and never look back. Jane Fonda, at 72, had cosmetic surgery on her jawline and eyes to look less tired.
“I felt pretty terrific, but I always looked tired,” she told Forbes. “I got tired of not looking like how I felt.” If a little facelift makes you feel better about yourself, go for it. Hear, hear.
4. A strong dose of Mother Nature heals all, diminishing stress and making you infinitely wiser when it comes to making decisions. No pharmacy or bartender necessary (if only we’d realized that in our teens when weekends were for the mall).
5. You don’t get to 50 without experiencing some sort of loss, but how you deal with it greatly affects your quality of life. It’s no surprise that grudges can age you, so don’t shrivel in anger – grieve and move on.
6. Stop fretting about milestone birthdays and start celebrating everything you’ve accomplished over the past year. Focus on your triumphs. There are quite a lot, you know.
7. Let go of perfectionism. Being perfect isn’t even possible, so why worry yourself trying? You’ve got better things to do.
8. Love deeper and more meaningful than ever before. Self-awareness and feeling whole is a powerful thing that comes with age. It may even make love even better in the third act of life.
9. Rebel with a cause. It’s been said that Centenarians, the privileged few who live to be 100 years or older, are black sheep who break the so-called rules and practice rituals of pleasure, every day. Whether it’s a shot of whiskey or a chocolate eclair, the goal should be to devour it with delight (not addiction). Did we mention Jane has also admitted she still smokes pot every now and then? Yes, we’re quite fond of Miss Fonda.
10. Repeat rules one through nine, and let us know how it goes.
Written by: Stephanie Simons